Relationship & Codependency Therapy for Women
Your relationships could be better…
Do you find yourself in the same relationship patterns over and over? Somehow, you keep picking the wrong partner. You don’t understand what you’re doing wrong, and you feel hopeless.
Maybe it’s difficult for you to voice your feelings. You want to open up more and be less guarded, but it’s scary, and you tend to shut down. You feel unlovable and fear abandonment.
Perhaps you find yourself struggling to say “no” to a partner or family member. You go out of your way to please them, even if this means putting your happiness on the back burner. You feel compelled to take care of them first.
You’re so used to putting others first that you might not even recognize your own needs aren’t being met. You might adopt your partner’s needs and preferences as your own in an attempt to keep them happy.
Or maybe you’ve found a healthy partner but you worry about their problems. You feel compelled to “fix” them and become frustrated when your attempts don’t work. You notice that your mood depends on your partner and their emotions become yours.
You might question your worthiness of the relationships in your life. You feel that if people knew who you really are deep down, they would leave you.
Whether it be a romantic partner, a friend, a family member, or a coworker, relationships are hard. Really hard. It can be so disheartening when you find yourself stuck in the same unfulfilling and unhealthy relationships. We get it.
You can break free of these cycles
(for good!)
Imagine what it would be like to experience honesty, trust, respect, communication, and safety in your relationships. You can enjoy personal time away from one another without fearing abandonment. You feel equal and make mutual choices that feel good.
You’re able to say no to others without feeling guilty. Your feelings of worthiness and love are independent of your partner’s happiness.
If you’re struggling with relationships in your life, you are not alone. Relationship patterns are adaptive responses to painful experiences from the past. It is possible to heal from these painful experiences, break free from these patterns, and find healthy partners and friends.
Working on yourself can benefit your relationships!
Although we do not provide couples therapy (when both individuals are involved in the therapy process), relationships often improve when clients seek individual growth work.
Getting hurt by someone we love is inevitable. Parts of us take on extreme beliefs about these experiences, for example, “I’m unlovable.” These wounded parts often seek out people who represent the ones that originally hurt us in an attempt to be redeemed. Of course, this doesn’t end well, the wound gets deeper, and the cycle continues.
Therapy can help to uncover the underlying causes of these cycles and help you break free from them so that you can experience healthy relationships.
Healing your inner child can help you feel free.
Therapy can help to uncover the underlying causes of these symptoms and heal from these painful experiences. We know how to best help our clients using evidence-based models, such as Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy.
IFS therapy recognizes that our mind is naturally multiple, often referred to as the different “parts” of us. Many of us already use this language in everyday life, for example, “A part of me wants to find a new job because I’m unhappy in my current role, but another part of me is scared to leave and try something new.”
Internal Family Systems teaches us that our parts take on distinct roles to protect us, navigate life, and survive. It might be hard for you to believe right now, but the parts of you that are stuck in these cycles are trying to help you in some way. All parts have good intentions.
Throughout our work together, we will hold curiosity about the different parts of you and their roles. We will help heal by guiding you to access and love your protective and wounded inner parts by changing the dynamics that create discord among parts and your Self.
As a bonus, you will be more accepting of, and less reactive to, others who used to bother you; you can relate to them with compassion because you’re able to do that with parts of you that resemble them.
EMDR Therapy relieves distress, reformulates negative beliefs, and reduces physiological arousal. Stress responses are part of our natural fight, flight, or freeze instincts. When distress from a disturbing event remains, the upsetting images, thoughts, and emotions may create an overwhelming feeling of being back in that moment, or of being “frozen in time.”
EMDR therapy helps the brain process these memories, and allows normal healing to resume. The experience is still remembered, but the fight, flight, or freeze response from the original event is resolved.
Questions or concerns about relationship therapy?
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Although we do not provide couples therapy (when both individuals are involved in the therapy process), relationships often improve when people seek individual growth work.
How we relate to our own characteristics is how we relate to others who represent those characteristics. For example, if you feel that saying “no” to others is mean, you likely feel others are being mean to you when they tell you no, even if there is no malice behind it.
Throughout our work together, you will be more accepting of, and less reactive to, others who used to bother you; you can relate to them with compassion because you’re able to do that with characteristics of you that resemble them.
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Of course! Just as we could work on your anxiety if you weren’t experiencing symptoms in session, we will explore your history and identify patterns in your relationships.
We use evidence-based modalities that allow you to “connect the dots,” gain a deeper understanding of your internal and external experiences, and get to the “root” of your issues so you can heal from experiences that drive these patterns.
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We understand that therapy is an emotional and financial investment in your future. We care deeply about providing the best possible experience for each of our clients and take a limited number of clients. We take our mental health and professional development very seriously and value work/life balance to ensure we remain passionate about our work and fully committed to providing the best possible care. This allows our clients to achieve their goals more quickly than working with therapists who are overworked and burnt out.
When you invest in therapy, you invest in your quality of life and general well-being. Imagine how liberating it would feel to finally be at peace, be free, and live the life you deserve.
we can help you in your relationships!
Let us help.
The best way to schedule your complimentary 15-minute phone consultation is to fill out the contact form below. This will allow us to send you a few different available dates so that you can check your schedule and choose a time that’s best for you.
During your consultation, we will get to know more about what you’re looking for and better understand if we can help you. We can also answer any questions you might have or you can visit our FAQ page. If you and your therapist agree you are a good fit for one another, we will offer to schedule your intake.